Advice: Difficult Friends

February 23, 2018

Another advice in my series, this one is dealing with difficult friends, and overcoming challenges.

Friendship, though it should be the easiest relationship, is sometimes the hardest. As I get older, it's harder and harder for me to comprehend that friendships are a struggle. I'm sick of drama, fake attitudes, jealousy, or competitiveness. 

When it comes down to it if you're friend/best friend is making you feel any type of way, you do have a say and action, to make a change. For me, difficulties in friendships have caused me anxieties. The anxiety stemmed from two places. 1) Feeling like I wouldn't survive without that friend in my life. 2) Overcoming whatever problem it was that caused the difficulties in the friendship.

But it's important to remember that there are millions of people out there! You should not settle for someone just because you're afraid of loneliness, or what they might to do you. You can handle anything that comes your way. If I hadn't let certain friendships end, I wouldn't have blossomed other friendships into what they are now, and I would've missed SO much!!

In my opinion, if you're dealing with a jealous, competitive, spiteful, backstabbing friend it is not worth it if it's going to leave you unhappy. What's the point of a friendship if every week, or day, or even month you're going to be mad at them, in a fight, anxious, embarrassed etc! There are other people out there that will help you grow, have fun with you, and who won't treat you anyway that will hurt you! I can tell you that from my own personal.

I'm not going to lie, though, in saying all this it does hurt. Losing friends, becoming distant, or being alone is scary, and upsetting. But in saying that, I'm going to be cheesy and pull out that "It's better to be alone than with bad company" because it is so true! And it will push you to grow other/new friendships that will only do well, and be positive for you in the future!!

I made a youtube video going a little more in depth on this subject if you guys want to check it out!


I hope you enjoyed this post & you found it helpful <3